While I was on a pinning mission today I happen to stumble across this site that is on pinterest called 16 Way I Blew My Marriage and I felt like this might be something I should read and see what I have to look forward to in my upcoming years of marriage and maybe I can do some damage control if things go south. The best part of this web posting is that it is from a man's point of view. Here are a few of the key points I think all woman can sort of relate to in a sense.
1. Don't Stop Holding Her Hand- I'll be the first to admit that Brandon and I used to hold hands ALL the time! In the truck, at the movies, at dinner-- but sometime after we got married things changed and we don't anymore. If we do its maybe for a minute or two but never like it used to be. Not that things changing are bad per say but I remember that we used to be a little more touchy feely but now nothing.
2. Don't Stop Trying to Be Attractive- I don't think this necessarily pertains to the men as it does to the women. I feel like Brandon has always looked the same and he doesn't have to try hard to be cute (like most men) but I can honestly say that I found myself a year after our wedding genuinely not caring about how I looked. I mean I would put in some effort to not look horrible if and when we went out but nothing like I did when we first started dating when I tried to look cute all the time- so this is clearly something that both parties need to work on.
3. Don't Always Point Out Her Weaknesses- The man who wrote this blog talked about how he would point out his wife's flaws on the things that she did and didn't do and always make it a point to tell her how to do them better- now to me any wife would say that you would go crazy and not stand for things like this and AMEN to that because that is the fastest way to push someone away is to make it seem like nothing they ever do is good enough. Men take note on this topic right now.
4.Don't Stop Cooking for Her- When I first met Brandon I was still living at home and he had an apartment so naturally I would always go over there and he would cook for me and do the dishes. Now a day it seems like I can barely get him off the couch to bring me his plate. Not that I mind taking care of him but sometimes it is nice to not have to cook for once or go out and start the grill myself. Guys always remember the phrase Happy Wife Happy Life- even if you don't want to cook the whole meal offer to at least cook the meat- at best you are up and off the couch for 10-15 minutes.
5. Don't Yell at Your Spouse- Now in our relationship there has never been much angry yelling there has though been lazy yelling. I tend to watch tv or a movie in our bedroom while Brandon prefers the living room and when we want something from the other or want to tell the other something we have a bad habit of not getting up to do so, rather we scream it or even worse text it and hope the other responds. I again am certainly guilty of this when I can get up and go in the next room and start a conversation I can see how this creates obstacles in a relationship and not only that but it puts a hindrance on communication which as we all know in any type of relationship is very important.
I hope that the insight to our relationship isn't too personal but I feel that these are really some valid points to any relationship. What do you think? Can you relate?
Until part two,
J
